First You Lose Your Temper—Then You Lose Everything Else
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to lose one opportunity after another, even when life repeatedly gives them a chance to succeed They may have intelligence, talent, experience and even the necessary resources, yet something within them appears to work against their own progress.
IIn my experience of studying more than a thousand horoscopes indicating both anger and loss, I have repeatedly noticed a striking pattern. Even during consultation, many of these clients appeared angry, disturbed and restless, while much of our discussion revolved around the losses they had suffered—especially the loss of wealth. Sometimes, I would ask them, “Why are you carrying so much anger within you?” They would reply, “Because life has treated me badly.” Their explanation may be true. Yet I often wonder whether the reverse could also be true: Are they angry because life has become difficult, or has life become more difficult because of their anger?
Prarabdha Karma does not always operate through events happening outside us. Sometimes, it uses our own mind, temperament, words and decisions as instruments to deliver the results of Karma. A person destined to lose something need not always face an accident, theft or sudden misfortune. Karma may first create anger within the mind. That anger may then make the person speak harshly, reject good advice, quarrel with helpful people, offend a customer, abandon an opportunity or make a reckless decision. The loss appears to have been caused by the person, yet the mind itself may have become the means through which the Karma unfolded.
I once entered a shop intending to purchase something. The shop owner appeared irritated and spoke to me impolitely. His anger immediately made me uncomfortable, and I left without buying anything. Looking around the shop, I could sense that the business was not doing particularly well. Perhaps the owner believed that his business difficulties were making him angry. But what if his anger was also driving customers away and deepening those very difficulties? Without realising it, he was not merely expressing his frustration—he was participating in the continuation of his own loss.
In another shop, I experienced the exact opposite. The owner and his staff were cheerful, patient and obliging. They listened carefully, showed me different choices and remained focused on my satisfaction. Because they made me happy, I stayed longer and purchased more than I had originally intended. The owner focused on my happiness, and I indirectly contributed to his happiness by buying more. His pleasant nature attracted business, goodwill and future customers. A smile cost him nothing, yet it earned him something. Anger may also appear to cost nothing, but very often its final bill is enormous.
What is common between a smile and anger?
A smile and anger have one thing in common: both are contagious. A smile spreads happiness, builds trust and draws people closer, while anger spreads tension, fear and unhappiness. What we carry within us often enters the minds of those around us—so choose carefully what you wish to spread.
Anger is like fire: it destroys the place where it originates before spreading elsewhere. It first burns the peace, judgement and happiness of the person who carries it; only afterwards does it damage relationships, opportunities and wealth. The greatest victim of anger is often the angry person himself.
What did Maharishi Parasara say in BPHS?
Before we begin, let us remember that anger exists within every human being—and, in some form, within every living creature. We naturally become angry when events do not unfold according to our wishes. That is ordinary anger, and it is part of life. But our discussion is about something far more intense: a person who seems to carry anger wherever they go. Their anger is so frequent, powerful and visible that almost everyone around them wonders, “My God! How much anger is this person carrying within?”
1. Lagna Lord in the 12th House — Anger and Wasteful Expenditure
Lagna Lord is the planet that rules your Ascendant. Say for example, your Ascendant is Libra, then Libra is owned by Venus, so your Lagna Lord is Venus. If that Venus is in the 12th house then the above shloka applies to you.
This is the clearest combination supporting the title of this article.
लग्नेशे व्ययभावस्थे देहसौख्यविवर्जितः ।
व्यर्थव्ययी महाक्रोधी शुभदृग्योगवर्जिते ॥१२॥
Transliteration:
Lagneśe vyayabhāvasthe dehasaukhyavivarjitaḥ,
Vyarthavyayī mahākrodhī śubhadṛgyogavarjite.
Word meanings:
Vyartha-vyayī — one who spends fruitlessly, uselessly or wastefully
Mahā-krodhī — extremely angry
Śubha-dṛg-yoga-varjite — when deprived of benefic aspect or association
Meaning:
When the Lagna Lord occupies the 12th house and does not receive benefic association or aspect, the person will lack physical happiness, spend money fruitlessly and be extremely angry.
Maharishi Parashara puts the two expressions side by side:
Maharishi Parashara is not merely describing poverty caused by unfavourable circumstances. By placing wasteful expenditure and extreme anger together in the same line, he appears to reveal a deeper connection: both may arise from the same disturbed planetary condition and the same unresolved Prarabdha Karma. The person’s anger, temperament and financial losses may not be separate problems; they may be different expressions of one karmic pattern.
From a karmic point of view, such wasteful expenditure may represent giving back the wealth wrongfully taken, withheld or misused in a previous birth. If money belonging to others was once acquired unjustly, the present life may become a payback life. However much the person earns, money seems to flow out of the bank and into the hands of others—through debts, penalties, disputes, wasteful decisions or unavoidable expenses. It is as though Karma has opened an invisible outlet through which accumulated wealth must continually escape.
Naturally, repeated losses can make the person angry. Yet the anger itself may also be part of the repayment. Those whose money was taken in the past may once have experienced helplessness, frustration and rage. In the present life, the same emotional burden may return to the person who caused it. The money goes out, anger rises within, and the individual experiences both the financial pain and the emotional suffering once imposed upon others.
The tragedy is that anger can then create still more loss. It disturbs judgement, damages relationships, drives away customers and encourages impulsive decisions. Thus, Karma may use the person’s own mind as its instrument: past actions create present expenditure, expenditure produces anger, and anger opens the door to further expenditure. This may be the profound warning concealed in Parashara’s compact expression: Vyarthavyayī Mahākrodhī—wasteful expenditure and extreme anger may be two sides of the same karmic repayment.
The 12th house is the house of loss, expenditure and dissipation. When the Lagna Lord—the person’s judgement, personality and direction in life—enters this house without benefic protection, anger may influence decisions. Money may then be spent impulsively, destructively or without obtaining any lasting benefit.
BPHS, Chapter 24, verse 12
2. The 12th Lord in the 12th House — Anger and Heavy Expenditure
The second direct combination is:
व्ययेशे व्ययभावस्थे व्ययाधिक्यं हि जायते ।
न शरीरसुखं तस्य क्रोधी द्वेषपरो नृणाम् ॥१४४॥
Transliteration:
Vyayeśe vyayabhāvasthe vyayādhikyaṃ hi jāyate,
Na śarīrasukhaṃ tasya krodhī dveṣaparo nṛṇām.
Important expressions:
Vyayādhikyam — excessive or heavy expenditure
Krodhī — angry
Dveṣaparaḥ — inclined towards hatred, resentment or hostility
Meaning:
When the 12th Lord occupies the 12th house, the person experiences excessive expenditure, lacks physical comfort, becomes angry and remains inclined towards resentment or hostility.
Here again, Parashara brings expenditure and anger into the same shloka: व्ययाधिक्यं हि जायते … क्रोधी द्वेषपरो नृणाम्
“Heavy expenditure arises … the person becomes angry and resentful.”
This verse is even more revealing because it adds Dvesha—resentment or hatred. Anger may not remain a momentary emotional reaction. It may become a continuing grudge, and that state of mind may contribute to repeated expenditure, disputes, broken relationships and financial loss.
Can You Identify the Real Difference Between These Two Shlokas?
Please study the two combinations carefully and try to identify the real difference between them. At first glance, both appear to indicate excessive expenditure, anger and financial loss. However, Maharishi Parashara is not simply repeating the same prediction in two different shlokas. A subtle but profound distinction exists between them. Spend a few moments thinking about it before you continue reading.
In the first combination, the 1st Lord occupies the 12th house. The key here is the 1st house—the house of “I.” In my horoscope, the 1st house represents me; in your horoscope, it represents you. Therefore, when the 1st Lord enters the 12th house, the individual himself becomes the instrument through which the expenditure takes place. This may explain why Maharishi Parashara uses the precise expression Vyarthavyayī—one who spends wastefully or fruitlessly. The money is not necessarily taken away by circumstances; the person spends it through his own desires, decisions and behaviour.
Such expenditure may arise from ego, showmanship, personal indulgence or self-gratification. I have observed people who are genuinely delighted by unnecessary purchases. When others ask, “Why are you wasting money like this?” they proudly reply, “I am rich. I have the money.” They may own twenty-five watches, fifty bottles of perfume, several pairs of similar shoes or expensive objects they hardly ever use. Within a short time, these purchases are forgotten and become nothing more than clutter.
The real pleasure may not even come from using what was purchased. It may come from the act of buying, possessing or displaying it. Because the 1st house represents the self, the expenditure may be intended to satisfy the ego, create an image or prove something to the world. No outside circumstance is compelling the person to spend. The impulse appears to come from within.
Yet from the karmic point of view, even this inner impulse may not be entirely accidental. The 12th house is one of the Dusthana houses—the 6th, 8th and 12th—and represents loss, expenditure, separation and karmic repayment. When the 1st Lord enters the 12th house, Prarabdha Karma may use the person’s own mind, desires, anger and judgement to produce the destined loss. The individual thinks, “I chose to spend,” without realising that his own nature may have become the instrument through which Karma is operating.
How Does the 12th Lord in the 12th House Work Differently?
When the 12th Lord occupies the 12th house, the nature of the expenditure may be entirely different. Here, the person may not be spending for pleasure, ego or self-gratification. Instead, circumstances may arise that make the expenditure appear necessary, correct and unavoidable. The person does not say, “I want to spend.” He says, “I have to spend.”
Suppose the person’s mother remains seriously unwell. Repeated consultations, medicines, hospitalisation and medical procedures may gradually drain the family’s savings. Yet how can this be described as wasteful expenditure? The person cannot simply refuse treatment to his mother. The same may happen through the illness of a spouse, child, father, brother, sister or another loved one. Money continues to flow out, but every payment appears justified by love, duty and responsibility.
The expenditure may also arise through other unavoidable situations. The person may have to repay a family debt, repeatedly repair a house, support a dependent relative, fight a necessary legal case or invest heavily in the education and future of a child. These are not necessarily expenses created by personal indulgence. They are circumstance-driven expenses—what we may call unavoidable or out-of-control expenditure.
From a karmic perspective, the people and circumstances surrounding the individual may become the instruments through which an old account is settled. Perhaps a person failed to care for his mother in a previous birth. In the present life, he may be given the responsibility of caring for a mother who is frequently ill. Out of genuine love, he spends whatever is necessary. The mother is not being blamed as the cause of the loss; she may simply become the sacred instrument through which an old karmic responsibility is fulfilled.
The same principle may be extended to other important people and responsibilities in life. Karma does not always collect its dues through punishment that appears cruel or meaningless. Sometimes it presents the payment as love, responsibility and moral duty. We willingly part with the money because, in our hearts, we know that spending it is the right thing to do.
With the 1st Lord in the 12th house, the loss may be created through the person’s own ego, anger, desires, poor judgement or self-indulgent behaviour. We may therefore call this “unforced expenditure.” Since the individual is the immediate instrument of expenditure, greater awareness, counselling, financial discipline, suitable Astrological remedies and the guidance of a spiritual Guru or an experienced Astrologer may help reduce the loss.
With the 12th Lord in the 12th house, circumstances themselves may become the collector. The expenditure feels necessary and may genuinely be the right thing to do. Remedies can offer strength, protection, clarity and better ways of managing the burden, but they may not completely remove a responsibility that forms part of the person’s Prarabdha Karma.
The entire distinction may therefore be expressed in two simple sentences:
The 1st Lord in the 12th may spend because “I want to.”
The 12th Lord in the 12th may spend because “I have to.”
With the 12th Lord in the 12th house, expenditure is more likely to arise through circumstances that feel unavoidable. To a large extent, the circumstances are already fixed at the time of birth. The person may sincerely believe that spending is necessary—and often it truly is. Karma is not making the person careless or wasteful; it is placing a responsibility before him and asking him to pay. We may therefore call this “forced expenditure.”
Remedies may provide protection, inner strength, financial support and the wisdom to manage the situation better. However, they may not completely remove a duty that has become part of one’s Prarabdha Karma. Asking for an Astrological remedy to stop such expenditure may sometimes be like asking, “Please give me a remedy so that I no longer have to spend money on my mother’s medical treatment.” How can any genuine remedy advise a person to abandon such a sacred responsibility?
The purpose of a remedy is not always to make the expense disappear. Sometimes, it helps the person find the necessary money, obtain the right medical guidance, reduce unnecessary complications and fulfil the responsibility without becoming emotionally or financially broken. The Karma may require payment, but Grace can make the repayment more manageable. A sincere prayer, supported by relevant Astrological remedies, may invoke Divine Grace and bring some relief—even a partial waiver of the karmic burden.
By Guruji E K Dhilip Kumar
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